Creating a Compassionate Care Package for Miscarriage Support

Losing a pregnancy is an experience that no one should have to endure alone. For those who have suffered a miscarriage, the emotional and physical toll can be overwhelming. As a miscarriage doula, part of your role is to provide comfort and support during this difficult time. One way to offer solace and show your care is by assembling a thoughtful care package for someone going through a miscarriage. In this blog post, we'll explore what could be included in such a care package to provide comfort and healing.

4. Scented Candles or Essential Oils
Aromatherapy can be a powerful tool for relaxation and emotional healing. Scented candles or essential oils like lavender or rose can create a calming atmosphere and promote a sense of tranquility and a way to honour their baby and loss.

5. Soft and Cozy Blanket or Shawl
A soft, warm blanket or shawl can provide physical comfort and emotional warmth. It's like giving them a virtual hug when they need it most.

6. Self-Care Items
Consider including self-care items like bath salts, bath bombs, or scented creams. These can help the person indulge in a little self-pampering to promote relaxation and self-love during this challenging period.

1. Personalized Note or Letter
Start by including a heartfelt note or letter expressing your sympathy and support. Let the person know that you are there for them, and that you understand their pain. Personalise the message to let them know that you're thinking of them. I still have mine and I reread them sometimes and they really do feel like a warm hug.

2. Herbal Teas and Comfort Foods
Miscarriage can take a toll on both physical and emotional well-being. Including soothing herbal teas and comforting, easy-to-prepare foods can be a thoughtful gesture, the same as preparing a package for someone who was postpartum . Chamomile, ginger, or peppermint teas are known for their calming properties. I loved nettle tea which is rich in iron and brilliant after blood loss, with honey. Homemade soup or hearty stews will offer nourishment during this challenging time.

3. A Journal or Notebook
Grieving and healing often involve reflection and self-expression. Providing a journal or notebook can be a therapeutic outlet for the person to jot down their thoughts, feelings, and memories related to the pregnancy and loss.

7. Books on Grief and Healing
Offering a book on miscarriage, grief, or healing can provide valuable resources and insight to navigate the complex emotions that accompany this loss. There are lots of ideas for this on my resources page (link).

8. Personalized Keepsake
Include a small keepsake, such as a memorial stone, a piece of jewelry, or a framed quote, to provide a tangible reminder of the lost pregnancy and the love that endures.

9. Contact Information for Support Groups or Counseling Services
Connect the person with resources they may need for additional support. Share contact information for local support groups, therapists, or counselors who specialize in pregnancy loss. I also found podcasts really helpful, simply hearing others stories and knowing I was not alone in my grief was profound. Lots of recommendations on my resources page (insert link)

10. Health and Comfort Essentials
To address the physical aspect of miscarriage, include sanitary pads and adult nappies, period pants, large black underwear, a hot water bottle for pain relief, over-the-counter painkillers, and local honey for soothing hot teas. These items can provide physical comfort during this difficult time.

11. Flowers or a Potted Plant
A bouquet of fresh flowers, fried flowers or a potted plant can symbolize new beginnings and provide a touch of nature's beauty during a time of sorrow.

Creating a miscarriage care package requires thought and sensitivity. Tailor the package to the individual's preferences and needs, and ensure that it reflects your genuine concern and compassion. It's a tangible way to let them know that they are not alone on their journey of healing. Your support as a friend or loved one extends beyond words, and this care package can be a beautiful gesture that truly makes a difference in their grieving process.